I was searching the internet this morning, for a way to keep my new address private, when I get it. I found this article on squidoo.com, which is invaluable. As everything always does, it sparked a thought and a memory of my experience…
The first inclination that I had a real problem with my X…though I reasoned it away as “reasonable”. My X, out of the blue, (as he was so skilled at doing) asked me how many times I had been married. I’m ashamed to admit, I have been married 3 times. When he asked, I was already afraid of him. I was not comfortable telling him, as he was very good at pulling out any ammunition against me, from any thought of his, impression or what-have-you. I chose to lie to him. Bad idea! He was now able to present me as a liar to those that trust him and even the courts, though they will never know what really happened, or the reason behind the lie. Somewhere around Christmas time of that year, I knew I wasn’t getting out of the relationship any time soon, and there would be gifts given by him, his family, and I felt guilty. It’s hard for me to lie. It throws my psyche into overload, I become guilt-ridden and I just don’t like feeling that way. I generally don’t lie. The better response to him would have been, “I’d rather you didn’t know” or “it’s none of your business”. When I told him, he said, “I already knew…” and took me over to his computer, pulled up a people search engine (peoplefinder.com), typed in my name and voila! Every bit of information about me. I asked him, “when did you do that?” He said he searched about me, before ever asking me out. Scary, right?? I thought it was understandable. Stupid, STUPID me!
I reasoned the incident away…I shouldn’t have. It would take hours to describe each time, in detail. Lets just say, the stalking never stopped, nor was it confined to just myself. He stalked my friends, ex-husbands, my family (including my Mother). He set up profiles on personal networking sites, just to find if I had one. It never stopped.
When I finally ran from him, I proceeded to attempt to eradicate every bit of my information on the internet. Several search engines followed through with my request in removing information (a couple of such sites, I reported him as a stalker). Others claimed that their hands were tied, and they couldn’t remove any information. Spokeo.com will remove it upon request.
When I contacted mylife.com, I found out that they set up a public profile FOR you, based on internet searches throughout cyber-space. They are also one who will remove the profile they set up for you, with a phone call and an explanation regarding your request. Unfortunately, they don’t have any way of blocking an individual from viewing any information. I no longer have any info about me on mylife. I did, however, report my X to their admins as a stalker so they are aware.
This article is very helpful… How to Remove Your Personal Information from Google and Internet.
- Exposing Online Predators & Cyberpaths (lifebegins45.wordpress.com)
- I Know Where You Live, How Much You Make and Who You Are Related To – Scared Yet? (bize-mom.com)
- 7 ways to mask your Internet identity (infoworld.com)