Cut and pasted from the website: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_to_heal_after_a_relationship_with_a_sociopath
“How to heal after a relationship with a sociopath?
You want me to be blunt? Your entire relationship was a lie and one sided. Can you really love someone who did not love you back and lied to your face for god knows how long? And you couldn’t see it? Don’t feel bad. A lot of people can pick up on us and sociopaths are very clever and know how to mimic empathy.
To be blunt. Just move on and find someone else. Don’t dwell on it.
That’s all I’ve got.
Drop him or her.
Just like they dropped you.”
Apparently this individual is a diagnosed psychopath. I believe this claim. I’ve really been struggling today, and like other days like this I decided to do a search on google. This is one link that came up in my search. This person who wrote in, is playing the demean and blame game that we are all too familiar with. He’s direct and to the point, with an abrasiveness about him that gives me the chills. Psychopaths are liars, that is a fact, yet in as much as they are liars (twisting the truth to form their own versions of reality for onlookers), they enjoy telling the truth just as much. It’s more shocking and hurtful to the recipient to hear “truth” at times. I’m reminded of Captain Hook in the movie “peter pan” with Robin Williams. In it, Hook tells Jack after being called a liar, “Lie? Why would I lie? The truth is far too much fun.” Psychopath.
When talking to people who haven’t been “there” about what happened, how he treated you and finally, what’s left, they not only think you have “lost it” but their favorite response is, “Just get over it”. This irritates me. The fact that I can’t look at another man romantically in any way without going into a tail spin, infuriates me. I’m still a friggen prisoner. To try to explain to that person why you won’t pursue anything romantic with them will bring that person to view you as ‘pathetic’ and ‘pitiful’. “Move on…get over it”… Instead of facing that type of conversation with anyone, I’d rather avoid it all together. What happens as a result? I’m left to fight through the torment entirely alone. I can’t confide in a friend about things without hearing something like “get over it”. They are impatient in the process you are going through because they can’t fathom the swells of shit welling up inside of you, still.
Even more are the damned vultures that are around you. They want a relationship with you, and will bend over backwards to make sure their name is forever on your tongue. To make sure that they are THERE when you are finally “over it” enough to try again. Vulture. Hover and peck. Maddening and suffocating. These people want to conquer you before anyone else gets the chance. Sickening
I don’t have a very good view of relationships and men right now. Carrion hunting, circling vultures.
The aftermath of a pathological, toxic relationship isn’t the same as having been cheated on, or even physically abused. Honestly (though I am glad this didn’t happen) I think I could have handled being beaten a lot easier than being psychologically raped.
People just don’t have a clue.